Mistakes that threaten the marital relationship
Successful marriage is based on affection, mercy, tranquility, safety and love, but there are mistakes committed by some of the next to marry and have a role in the destruction of this marriage, including:
Desperate to find a suitable partner:
This error is considered a classic and universal. Here the young man or girl feels that time is passing quickly and that a marriage must be found in a hurry because everyone around them has preceded them by marriage and the family is pressing them to marry for the sake of procreation, but haste here is not required.
Choose the wrong partner:
This mistake can be associated with the first mistake. Here is often the choice of partner is not appropriate at all and here you can blame yourself because you continue with him for a longer time with there are clear signs that it is inappropriate and patience on the partner and you hope that it can change for the better and become appropriate The relationship becomes harmful, painful, and time consuming. So, you must determine the criteria for choosing a life partner and know exactly who you are and what you are looking for
Acceleration:
Here the partner wants everything to be done quickly. For example, he says to his partner, "I love you from the first meeting. We will have children. We will call them such and such and talk about their plan to retire from the job and this puts pressure on the other party and eliminates spontaneity and pleasure from the early stages of the relationship. Each party has its time to identify the other
Not giving the partner an area of freedom:
Do not act as a fear of losing the relationship and give the other a certain space moving in it do not feel that inside a large prison and you with the key to this prison and force him to change his email and his account on social networking sites and change the mobile number and control his plans daily and weekly as to prevent him from getting off the house And the visit of relatives and friends and whenever you are afraid of loss whenever you reflect on your actions and decisions and the fear of loss of the partner is really lose him and when you are not afraid of losing the partner will be afraid to lose you any that each reaction an equal reaction in quantity and counter in the direction
Search for perfection:
Here each party expects that the other party will be fully integrated, lacking nothing, no defects, and this is a path of madness, because we are human beings, angels and we are all looking for a partner to complement us, but if this partner is full in the first place, why is he looking for a partner? So you have to be open minded and accept the possibility of being mistaken in the premise that you will only have a relationship with someone who exactly matches the expected image of your partner
Try changing the other party:
Many wives criticize their husbands and justify this criticism that their husbands are mistaken rather than admit the mistake, but criticizing the partner destroys the marital relationship because each person has his own pattern and personality style that has been formed over many years. When the other party tries to change his partner's style, Appreciation and that the other party does not respect and this pressure on the nerves and affects the very relationship and begins to destroy it, each party must accept the other as it is for a successful relationship with respect and appreciation
Lack of self-confidence:
When you trust yourself, the other side will trust you as a reciprocal relationship because when you trust yourself, you will completely depart from vanity, absolute control, jealousy, a feeling of insecurity and suspicion in the other party, an attempt to prove oneself at the expense of others, Mistakes and blame the other for the mistake committed by hesitation and escape from responsibility and to draw sympathy of others and if there is something you do not accept in the form of your face or body do not remind him in front of the partner of life because he will see that you are not confident in yourself
Crying over spilled milk :
Here, the partner finds it difficult to overcome the previous emotional crisis and become a victim of it and judge things from this past experience that failed. Therefore, each emotional experience must be viewed as an independent experiment, which does not resemble any past or subsequent experience.
the threat :
Here the partner believes that the threat is a means of persuasion and force the partner to continue the relationship, such as saying to him will not find someone loves you and treat you as good as I and most people can make them carry out your orders by feeling guilty and the partner may also use children to pressure the other to continue In the relationship or to punish the other for his mistake, but this will hurt the feelings of children as the threat increases feelings of guilt and guilt is the most feelings that destroy the person from within
Knowing the Conflicts:
This is a serious mistake and here when there are differences and problems between the parties party to inform all the surrounding the problem and this inflates the problem and make it larger and harder to resolve and the relationship is characterized by an atmosphere of mistrust and uneasiness and insecurity, so the differences between spouses must be resolved quickly and without interference from anyone else So that the relationship is successful and satisfy the needs of both parties
- 18 May, 2018
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