Girls for marriage
We often find ourselves in a dilemma to find a girl suitable for marriage or a girl fit to take responsibility for the home and family where the burden of the young man to search for the appropriate girl, but we find that the Islamic religion set standards for the girl suitable or girl fit for marriage and if the young man adhere to these criteria during his search will find the girl Occasion .
Basis I - Religion
The first basis for putting Islam to you is not to choose the girl who is suitable for marriage to be a religion, "do the same religion raised your hands," as the girl with religion and the correct Islamic education is infallible from mistakes and away from taboos and away from all Mayjd God.
As for women who have little religion and distance from their religion, they are subject to moral deviation and distance through the devil and the corruption of the world, for the most part, Islam put this condition as a prerequisite for choosing the right wife.
Here is the Messenger of Islam peace be upon him, shows you people's categories in the choice of women, and then the right to say, says: [the woman's wife to four: for money, beauty, to calculate, and religion Vzfr the same religion raised your hands] (Bukhari)
The second foundation - Creation
One of the basic principles is not to choose a life partner or girl suitable for marriage is a good attitude and good education and almost this reason is closely linked to the basis of the first religion, where good character is an important factor of the proper correlation
The third foundation - to be a virgin
It is recommended, as stated in the Sunnah, to be your girl who wants to marry a virgin, because the human nature favors the new and alienates from the old and so and so your noble Prophet peace be upon him to his companion, Jaber bin Abdullah when he learned that he married Thiba: [Hala Bakra manipulation and manipulation] , The fact that the Galilee married his father that his father had died and left him small sisters need care and care, and that the thief in this case able to take care of the house, and not that which God's ability and spent it was virgin, and the virgin woman many benefits, as they make all love for men The first he chose from among the thousands and what love only for the beloved And then, she did not try men before, no doubt that she will give the one who marries her all the affection and affection
Basis IV - Be a Welda
One of the foundations that Islam has set for you is to choose a woman who is born
A newborn woman knows two things
The first is that her body is free from diseases that prevent pregnancy. This is due to specialists from doctors who are mentioned in this regard, which some countries have seen from the need to offer to doctors before marriage.
Second: to look at the case of her mother and her married sisters. If the kanoo of the type of childhood is often loving - if God wants - where the inheritance plays a role, and for this order Mustafa peace be upon him searching for the newborn woman
It was narrated from Anas that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commanded the da'wa, and he forbade the tibet and said: "Get married to the beloved, the newborn, I will multiply with you the prophets on the Day of Resurrection." was told by Abo Dawood and AlNasaee
On the authority of Maqqal ibn Yasar, he said: A man came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: I have hit a woman of good and beauty, and she does not give birth to her. He said: "No," then the second came to him, then he came to the third. He said: "Get married to the beloved and the newborn, for I will multiply among you the nations." Narrated by al-Nasa'i and Abu Dawood.
Basis V - Convergence in age and culture
One of the bases upon which Islam is separated is to say that when choosing a life partner, there should be a rapprochement between age, culture and descent. This is what is called "equality between spouses", in order to preserve the level of married life and harmony between husband and wife
Basis VI - Mother
Where the girl knows through her mother is advised in the suitor to take into account and study the behavior of the mother and deal with her husband and her family, as she said many popular proverbs that the girl is very similar to her mother has many of its qualities and attributes.
The mother is considered the first teacher and example and example for her daughters, if the mother is valid you can expect a valid wife through the formation of good, and vice versa, and each rule Chawa.
Yes, you may meet a girl more mature than her mother, more educated and aware of her age, but must also have a mother's fingerprints, and you can simply feel some features of the mother's personality in the personality of the girl regardless of the culture and awareness.
At the same time, we call upon every mother to formulate her daughter's character as a successful housewife, a good wife, a nanny and a social woman. We see that the young man has another opportunity or an additional factor to know the girl of his dreams by comparing her mother.
As well as most of today's men emphasize the existence of certain qualities in the girl who is suitable for marriage: (commitment to balance morality culture beauty personal love religiosity veil, and that her clothes are appropriate for fashion).
As well as the convergence of age between spouses and their lack of mental illness and form defects ..
This means that the specifications may change according to time, but some conditions are fixed does not affect the aging of time, as a condition of religion, honesty and ethics ...
In the end there are many specifications that should be characterized by women and modern girls to attract the heart of men, it must be characterized by cleanliness and elegant appearance, innovation and ambition, and be a bug ..
- 14 May, 2018
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