Common causes of marital problems
With love, hope and harmony, the couple usually start their married lives, but unfortunately with the passing of days and assuming new marital responsibilities were not considered. The feelings of love and harmony are gradually and gradually replaced by the conflict and discord, and, finally, to cold marital feelings and, ultimately, to the end of the marital bond, God forbid.
Dear husband Dear wife there is always and never common causes of marital problems, which we have developed over time and loved to summarize in this article may God benefit the married and the next to marry.
The most important of these reasons are:
1. Comparisons:
Some couples, in a poetic or even unconscious way, make comparisons between their husbands and other people, relatives or otherwise, and this will generate some negative feelings on both sides, which both spouses are rich in.
I advise you dear husband, dear wife, to stay away from comparisons completely and satisfy the reality and evoke the advantages of the other party. The difference of people is a sign from God Almighty.
2. Ignore problems:
There is almost no marital relationship. But the multitude of problems deferred and not talk and repeat it can lead to boredom and to accumulations and then the explosion of anger. So the couple must solve their problems first-hand through peaceful and civilized dialogue.
3. The irony of the other side:
Many couples resort to ridicule from the other side, which generates feelings of frustration and aversion. Therefore, we advise the couple to respect each other and to be careful to respect each other's feelings and avoid the feelings of the other party.
4. Checking for defects and looking out for favors:
Some couples highlight the shortcomings of the other side, unfortunately and at the same time miss the other side of the pros and cons of many, and this act to build bridges of alienation and distance between spouses. Therefore, we advise you spouses to take care of each other, and constantly looking for your positive and make the effort to highlight and develop. And if possible try to address the shortcomings of the other party and you and exaggeration.
5. Pathological jealousy:
Jealousy within its natural limits is required and on both sides it means interest. But when it transcends its natural limits, questions from one party to the other end up questioning and becoming more like an inquiry, followed by mistrust and mistrust. All this generates violence, fear and uneasiness on both sides. So I advise you dear husband, dear wife, to stay away as far as possible from excessive and satisfying jealousy and commitment to openness because it inspires confidence and confidence.
6. Excessive leadership that reaches to bullying:
We do not mean this paragraph to shed men on women only, but we mean the imposition of women also on men, believing that it will make her husband a better person if follow all directions, of course, this is wrong because the husband is born with a sense of deprivation sometimes.
Well, in order not to give the party at the expense of the other party will talk about the domination of men on women if the man believes that he will be alone decisions at home and will be the final command in every small and large and without taking the opinion of the wife forget the words of God Almighty: ((And ordered them Shura Among them) so both spouses avoid taking decisions individually and make the Shura among themselves approach to them to avoid the tension and distress that occurs at home as a result of one of the parties to the other.
7. Scarcity of leisure time:
The continued work of one of the parties and preoccupation with the other, whether by working or with friends or even raising children and advocacy work, would feel the other party neglect. It is possible to create a special vacuum if the individual can not fill this void.
So the couple should pay attention to the other party and make both spouses marital relationship and the rest of the other party of their priorities.
- 9 Apr, 2018
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